How Black Men Influence Teenage Girls (MyBrotha.com)
“For a very long time, there has been an increased awareness of the positive, constructive interactions between Black male role-models and Black boys. The lack of fathers in the home and the negativity associated with broken families and “dead-beat dads”, has been center stage in the Black community.
While our attention on the father-son, male role-model/Black male child relationship continues to grow, we cannot forget about the strong influences Black fathers have on their pre-teen and teenage daughters - or how the behaviors of Black males impact the lives of girls around them. A well-rounded father, or any positive male figure, is crucial to the psychological and social development of a teenage girl. What girls see and hear can play an important role in how they respond and react to men as they get older (more…).”
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What I hope emerges out of this situation down in Durham is a national dialogue in the black community that addresses WITH AN ACTION PLAN on how to reverse the trend of fatherless homes. Too many folks have been jumping on the “It’s the system’s fault that this young woman had to resort to stripping to support her two kids” bandwagon. Where is the father (or fathers) of these children? Seems to me if someone was paying child support…let me stop right there because to some, I am “beating up” on black folks.
I think taking responsibility and at first being responsible is not spoken of enough in the households. No its not the systems fault that she chose to be a stripper.
Comment by Brian | April 19, 2006
I choose to think responsibly before, during, and after sex so that I am mentally prepared for the outcome if I impregnate a woman. I refuse to be a dead beat dad and enough brothers don’t say this or choose to be ignorant to the responsibilities of sex. I grew up with both my parents in the home, though I’m not largely successful I know that it was a good thing to have that balance in our home.
Comment by Brian | April 19, 2006
Save daddy the big piece of chicken …
Comment by Brian | April 19, 2006
Women need to know what type of men they are sleeping with. Just becuase he says something good in your ear doesn’t mean you drop your draws.
Comment by Saudia | April 19, 2006
Saudia, you always get to the meat….er, heart of the issue.
Comment by Dolphin | April 19, 2006
I have but one mission in life. Bring morality back to the black community. If we start there a lot of other stuff will fall into place. Yes men are running out. But guess what. If you didn’t lay down in the 1st place then who would they have to run out on. I made it clear to my husband what type of relationship he was getting into. Yes many men before him left after the 1st date. But those are the same men that would have left after the baby was born.
Comment by Saudia | April 19, 2006
Yes, bringing morality back into the Black community will solve many problems. Then the vicious cycle that is initiated when men/fathers/husbands (and women/mothers/wives) shirk their responsiblities can be stopped.
Not being judgemental, but my first child was born one year after my wife and I were married. I knew that there was no way I would bring children into the world without being able to properly follow through.
Comment by exe | April 19, 2006
It does start with you (each individual) accepting responsibility for every action you take every action.
Comment by Brian | April 19, 2006