http://blackinformant.wordpress.com/2006/05/04/is-marriage-5050/ African-American culture, news commentary, politics Sun, 06 Jul 2008 07:02:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU http://blackinformant.wordpress.com/2006/05/04/is-marriage-5050/#comment-2795 Brian Fri, 05 May 2006 13:59:50 +0000 http://blackinformant.com/2006/05/04/is-marriage-5050/#comment-2795 I hate when older people just look down on this generation as if all of us crave the same things. I want that life partner I just refuse to settle for a situation thats going to be filled with more anger filled or sad moments than us just being focused and making the best of it. I know it won't be all roses but it ain't 'sposed to be all rain. The last young lady gave me a vision of the thoroughness I would like in a partner but I realize the part I played and its like you can't look for the person to complete you, you have to be complete beforehand . Also the love for yourself has to be eternal before you can love eternally. We all have flaws but I think the good marriages work because you can stand that persons bad side as well as the good. So when I go into a relationship I try my best to let that person just be who she is and thats when you see the truth of who they are and thats when you start to decide if this is what you want your life to be like with this person. I think you can't tell that after a few months but after a year or so you start to see each others true colors and with my last relationship I decided I wasn't ready for a true committment to that woman. I place a lot of value on trying to find the right mate but is that the only way ? I hate when older people just look down on this generation as if all of us crave the same things. I want that life partner I just refuse to settle for a situation thats going to be filled with more anger filled or sad moments than us just being focused and making the best of it. I know it won’t be all roses but it ain’t ’sposed to be all rain. The last young lady gave me a vision of the thoroughness I would like in a partner but I realize the part I played and its like you can’t look for the person to complete you, you have to be complete beforehand . Also the love for yourself has to be eternal before you can love eternally. We all have flaws but I think the good marriages work because you can stand that persons bad side as well as the good. So when I go into a relationship I try my best to let that person just be who she is and thats when you see the truth of who they are and thats when you start to decide if this is what you want your life to be like with this person. I think you can’t tell that after a few months but after a year or so you start to see each others true colors and with my last relationship I decided I wasn’t ready for a true committment to that woman. I place a lot of value on trying to find the right mate but is that the only way ?

]]> http://blackinformant.wordpress.com/2006/05/04/is-marriage-5050/#comment-2794 Brian Fri, 05 May 2006 13:42:59 +0000 http://blackinformant.com/2006/05/04/is-marriage-5050/#comment-2794 Marriage is 100-100. Your'e giving all of yourselves not just a little bit here and there. I'm a youngster (26) and this is how I have viewed it for sometime and its this notion that won't let me settle for anything less in my potential mate. I think you have to maintain your individuality in marrriage. I recently had a lady and I paid for all the dates we went on because I was more financially responsible meaning I planned for the dates economically anticipating how much it would cost before hand. I still like some of the old school values like the man being man enough to pay for the dates without thinking hes "tricking" his money off. The pimp mentality has slowed our mental progress in some cases we don't value our women the way we should. I try to treat women with the utmost respect but if she volunteers to pay every once in a while or when she asks me out I'm all for that too. Marriage is 100-100. Your’e giving all of yourselves not just a little bit here and there. I’m a youngster (26) and this is how I have viewed it for sometime and its this notion that won’t let me settle for anything less in my potential mate. I think you have to maintain your individuality in marrriage. I recently had a lady and I paid for all the dates we went on because I was more financially responsible meaning I planned for the dates economically anticipating how much it would cost before hand. I still like some of the old school values like the man being man enough to pay for the dates without thinking hes “tricking” his money off. The pimp mentality has slowed our mental progress in some cases we don’t value our women the way we should. I try to treat women with the utmost respect but if she volunteers to pay every once in a while or when she asks me out I’m all for that too.

]]> http://blackinformant.wordpress.com/2006/05/04/is-marriage-5050/#comment-2793 Keith Harris Thu, 04 May 2006 14:16:32 +0000 http://blackinformant.com/2006/05/04/is-marriage-5050/#comment-2793 The 50/50 is the reason for the more than 50% failure rate. The 50/50 is the reason for the more than 50% failure rate.

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